Why ‘Faking It’ Isn’t Always The Best Medicine For The Soul.

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“We get so much in the habit of wearing disguises before others that we finally appear disguised before ourselves”  Francois de la Rochefoucauld

In 2009 I met a lady I will call Mrs Chevin. Mrs Chevin is glamorous and drives a very expensive German car, wears only designer labels and turns up to every self-help conference going.  18 months later we met for a coffee and Mrs Chevin told me she was £40,000 in debt, was about to lose her house as she couldn’t make the mortgage payments and was on a diet of stir fried vegetables because it was only £1 per bag.  Every night when Mrs Chevin shut the door of her home fear would appear, faking it would stop and reality would set in.  She told me she listened to the book The Secret and so many other self-help gurus, so what had gone wrong?  Why wasn’t she receiving all that she was giving out?

To build on your self-confidence and take yourself forward you don’t have to fake it.  Take yourself to a place of truth, a place where you triumph.  How does it feel and what does it look like?  Take yourself back into that precise moment.  It is here your soul knows the truth.

Topher Morrison, author of Collaboration Economy told me  “I think the self help world has completely misused the phrase ‘fake it til you make it’.   When you use it to take actions towards your goals in the face of self doubt it is great advice but too many have been led to believe it is okay to make false statements and misrepresent their own ability and hope that eventually their statements will come true.”

Exercise to stand In your power with confidence:

Sit comfortably and visualise from your feet roots of a tree spiralling down into the earths core, stand strong like a great oak tree, tall and proud.

Your branches reaching for the sky. This position is a position of confidence and truth. Feel it in your core. Feel comfortable and relax.

See a time in your minds eye when you felt confident, a time when you felt triumphant, it doesn’t matter how big or small it is, a moment when you felt confident and in a place of truth.

Make the colours you see brighter and the sounds louder than before letting your feeling of confidence and power grow. How strong does your body feel? Where do you feel it most in your body? What colour is this feeling? From your roots to the top of your branches step up the brightness every single time you scan up and down your body. Repeat the memories a couple more times and see and feel more detail every single time.

Give it a try for a week and see your confidence change write down what differences you noticed and carry those with you in your internal power pack.