How Low Can You Go??

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“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
― C.G. Jung

The last few months I’ve been a busy girl, and let me tell you how it happened. I was recently asked to shadow an MD of a Fortune 500 company. Don’t worry the company know I’m writing this. Now the MD in question knows how to make money, which is why they are a Fortune 500 company. But unfortunately this MD doesn’t know how to have good relationships.

What’s the problem I hear you cry?
The problem occurred when the MD asked a family member, after a couple of glasses of wine (maybe not the best way to go about it) to tell him what they really thought about how he came across in business and personal relationships, as the MD in question had heard a staff member speaking her mind what she really thought about how staff were treated.
So do we really know who we are and how we come across in our personal lives and in our business?

1. The words we use.
Have you ever really listened to what you are saying? if you want to know someone’s attitude to life have a conversation with them. If they are mostly critical unfortunately that is how they speak to themselves. Think before you have a conversation “what is the motivation behind what you are saying?” Is it to help motivate or stagnate a person? Words are one of the most powerful things we possess so we have to be aware of how we use them.

2. What is your body saying?
I’m sure we have all rolled our eyes at someone, or crossed our arms in the middle of a conversation. What is our body language really saying compared to what is coming out of our mouths. If you do want to connect with someone let your body do the talking; keep an open stance and make eye contact with the person (don’t stare); show you are listening, every one wants to be heard.

3. Don’t make it personal.
When you do have something to say keep to the point, remember that’s what you’re there for. So many times we react in a defensive way when we don’t have the outcome we desire. Look at the situation from the perspective of an outsider. In any situation we can all learn and that is what we are here for.

4. Don’t assume.
Have you ever sent an email or text and expected a reply straight away? When it didn’t come you had a whole drama going through your head. We live in a time when you can have what you want at the push of a button and we have to remember that people are human. Whilst one person is celebrating the birth of baby Prince George, another is mourning the death of a loved one. My point!! who knows what’s going on in a person’s life we can’t just assume…

5. If you’re not doing it already, asked questions and listen to the answers. How will we ever learn if we don’t ask questions. We have a saying in the North East of England “a shy bairn gets nowt”. If you don’t ask you won’t get. My success today comes from asking for help, listening to the outcome and putting into practice what I was told.

Remember whether it’s a friend, colleague or a loved one they are all relationships and have to be nurtured…until next time x